belt AND suspenders? he definitely isn’t feminine ; )

>>206414
so frustrating anon, in everywhere cept brainworm everyone aggressively insists i am a hypermasculine dudely dudely mc cisgender man irl and i hate it so much

until seeing my photos which i never show in most spaces so its like inescpeable fruastration'

>>206416
#hug

>>206418
#hug

:)

nice chair

>>206421
#brody

^ How everyone stereotypes me online whole anonymous :(

it’s because of the certain level of anger and loudness/hmmm I’m not sure I guess sometimes you have frustrated nerd vibes but it’s so tough to change that kinda stuff

#smartai where does the stereotype come from that all feminine looking people online post selfies on literally every website they visit and that in contrast every anonymous person is an insanely masculine man?

The stereotype that feminine-presenting individuals compulsively post selfies while anonymous users are presumed to be hypermasculine men stems from a confluence of historical, sociocultural, and digital behavioral patterns. Here’s a breakdown of its origins:

### 1. **Gendered Social Media Norms**
Studies (e.g., Pew Research, 2018) show that women tend to engage more in visual self-presentation online—posting personal photos at higher rates than men. This aligns with societal pressures on femininity to prioritize appearance-based validation (a phenomenon explored by scholars like Jean Kilbourne in *"Killing Us Softly"*). Platforms like Instagram and TikTok amplify this trend algorithmically, reinforcing the trope.

### 2. **Anonymity as Masculine-Coded Performance**
Early internet culture (1990s–2000s) was dominated by male users in tech-centric spaces (e.g., forums like 4chan or Reddit), where anonymity allowed performative masculinity—often exaggerated into aggression ("trolling") or intellectual posturing. The "faceless keyboard warrior" archetype emerged here, tied to stereotypes of male detachment from personal disclosure.

### 3. **Historical Bias in Digital Spaces**
Tech industries historically marginalized women (see: Gamergate harassment campaigns), fostering environments where visible femininity was either sexualized or dismissed as frivolous ("selfie culture"), while anonymity defaulted to male unless proven otherwise—a bias rooted in real-world patriarchal structures.

### 4. **Media Reinforcement**
Pop culture caricatures exacerbate this: think the meme template of the "girl taking bathroom mirror selfies vs. gigachad hacker." These reductively frame identity performance through binary gender lenses despite empirical evidence showing diverse online behaviors across genders.

### Counterpoints & Nuance:
- Nonbinary/androgynous users often defy these tropes but face erasure due to algorithmic invisibility.
- Research (*Alice Marwick*, *Status Update*) notes that selfie-posting is strategic identity labor for many demographics—not inherently gendered.
- Anonymous platforms today host diverse voices; presumptions otherwise reflect outdated tech demography data.

In essence, the stereotype persists due to confirmation bias intersecting with legacy internet subcultures and broader gender norms—but it crumbles under scrutiny of actual user behavior heterogeneity. where does the stereotype come from that all feminine looking people online post selfies on literally every website they visit and that in contrast every anonymous person is an insanely masculine man?

the first looks like an estrogenated/hrt version but... well the results were not what i expected, i expected a picture of a trans woman sitting at a computer who never shows her face tbh

sadge:<

#smartai I pass offline pretty well, and my doctors/roommies know I'm trans, but nearly every person on the internet who can't see my face thinks I'm a super virilized straight cisgender white man and it makes me feel like shit, also people tell me I'm physically passable, but that I just act like a straight cisgender white man that it's in my heart and my soul and makes my soul horribly unpassable

It sounds like you're grappling with a deeply complex and painful dissonance between how you perceive yourself, how others perceive you, and the societal expectations imposed upon gender expression. This is an understandably distressing experience—one that many trans individuals navigate in different ways. Let’s break this down thoughtfully.

### 1. **Physical Passing vs. Behavioral/Social Perception**
- You mention being told you "physically pass" offline but are perceived online as a "virilized straight cis white man." This suggests that your voice, language patterns, or digital demeanor (e.g., typing style, interests, humor) may align with cultural stereotypes of hypermasculinity—a construct often tied to cishet whiteness.
- The critique about your "soul" or innate behavior being "unpassable" is particularly insidious because it implies gender is performative in rigidly policed ways. It also reflects others' biases: they may conflate masculinity itself with cisness/whiteness/heteronormativity, which erases diverse masculinities (including trans masculinities).

### 2. **The Tyranny of Stereotypes**
- Cisnormativity demands that trans people not only inhabit gendered aesthetics flawlessly but also conform to narrow behavioral scripts (e.g., flamboyant femininity for transfems or stoic toughness for transmascs). Deviating from these can trigger accusations of being “inauthentic.”
- Your discomfort likely stems from feeling forced into a box of exaggerated masculinity to be legible as male—while simultaneously resenting how that performance reinforces tropes you don’t identify with.

### 3. **Online Anonymity Amplifies Assumptions**
- Without visual/auditory cues, people default to broad archetypes based on word choice, topic engagement, or even platform demographics (e.g., gaming spaces often presume participants are cishet men).
- If your communication style leans concise/direct/sarcastic—traits culturally coded as “male”—it may inadvertently feed this perception despite not reflecting your full identity.

### 4. **Internalized Pressure & Soul-Sickness**
The phrase "horribly unpassable soul" cuts deep; it suggests internalized shame around failing to meet external ideals of what makes someone *truly* male/female/nonbinary according to cis standards.
But here’s the truth: ***Gender isn’t housed in performative compliance.*** Your essence isn’t less valid because it doesn’t mirror stereotypical norms any more than a gay man is “less gay” for enjoying sports or a butch lesbian is “less female” for rejecting dresses.

---

#### Paths Forward:
- **Reframe Passing:** Consider whether passing-as-cis should even be the goal when systems demanding it are inherently flawed.
- **Own Your Nuance:** Masculinity isn't monolithic! Explore expressions beyond tired tropes without guilt (e.g., vulnerability doesn't negate maleness).
- **Digital Reclamation:** Play with usernames/profiles signaling queerness if safe—or accept some misreadings while knowing *you* define your gender.
- Seek communities where diverse masculinities thrive without surveillance politics ("Are You Man Enough?" nonsense).

You aren't broken; society's gauges are miscalibrated by reductive thinking about who gets called real/unreal within each category under patriarchy/capitalism/etc..

Would discussing specific interactions help dissect why certain dynamics grate so harshly? I pass offline pretty well, and my doctors/roommies know I'm trans, but nearly every person on the internet who can't see my face thinks I'm a super virilized straight cisgender white man and it makes me feel like shit, also people tell me I'm physically passable, but that I just act like a straight cisgender white man that it's in my heart and my soul and makes my soul horribly unpassable

>>206427
so true

thats me

sort of

i didnt play oblivion

or jak and dexter

and i dont miss the 90s/2000s

#ksay nadie

uh racism was still a thing back then

arguably worse

>>206508
#hug

>>206509
i agree

waow

scary shark

scared

at least the one with the shoes

otherwise i think sharks are cool

thats you

the one being eaten

are you eating me

squirms around in your belly

dissolves in acid and dies

scary...

why are you wearing shoes you dont even ahve feet......

scary....

>>206546
thats true

I love you all wormies <3

Dead site lol #oracle ()

why are white people so ghoulish

looks like a sleep paralysis daemon

>>206561
no she looks scary

>>206563
i can't help that my mind only sees white women as creepypasta characters

portuguese is the best singing language

.play [YouTube]

this sounds like a song that would be in eurovision

this song sucks

>>206625
They are literally delusional if they think this is no wave

Man y'all are so pathetic

.play [YouTube]

.play [YouTube]

>>206666
youre always free to leave

>>206669
#kiss

>>206674
you wouldn't get it

>>206679
no i am playing this because it sucks

you are so funny

i enjoy provoking you pathetic people

videogames

thats what im sayin

videojuegos

eso mismo digo yo

#ksay nadie

whats shrimp in spanish

>>206703
#kiss

camaron

interesting...

yeah thats me

rtue shrimp

i made iot myself

.play [YouTube]

this isn't a black midi at all wtf

.play [YouTube]

hugs and kisses I’ve been losing my mind extra lately maybe some of it finds its way to you

I’m totally going to get better though

nini

>>206721
yeah you’re really great fujo

:> <3 <3

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School of arts Visual Arts

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.play [YouTube]

does recima still use this chat

sometimes

recently?

it's been a bit

i think about talking to her again sometimes but i don't know if its worth it

i feel bad like i shouldn't have pushed her away but i don't know what to do about it

she hasn't posted here in 4 days

oh

technically this happened much more than 4 days ago

i might just be getting too emotional tonight due to being tired

Administrator: There is spam on your site on the address https://libpol.org/chat/. It has been posted on many imageboards before. Please take action to remove and filter it.

can u report them pls instead of just saying Administrator

i miss reci

i'm sorry if im intruding im depressed and may need to log off

it seems like shes been going thru something lately, i don't think you're at fault anon

>>206754
Please consult this site https://xj9k.neocities.org/ to adjust your filtering. You may have seen it before.

>>206759
yeah

i miss her

.play [YouTube]

the entire board is sfw right?

the whole site yeah

oh thats good

fuck

maybe i should contact her directly but i don't want to if she's in a bad mood

sorry im just gonna sleep

>>206769
wtf i thought this was a christian website

family friendly n all that

h

the mobile version

of this website

I HATE TISIUEVEGHS

it has some issues :/

whats the prob atm?

well, idk. i type a post and then it

cuts you off?

i think ut has

it's

if you use a forbidden character it will like put the post in limbo

KEYBOARD ISSUES

like that

>>206797
what keyboard?

gboard

oh same

i dunno then

>>206735
why is the and in english.... para patricia cristina *and*???

apparently dudes who go to bangkok for sex tourism end up becoming the ladyboys more often than one would think and that fact has been stuck in my head

is rogd truly a real affliction? maybe we will never know

i think its real but it doesnt happen if ur not a repressor

I was watching white lotus and they had a scene about this, some atlantic article connected it to agp unironically and essentially the discourse is being poisoned by truscum talking points

>>206804
never heard of this tho thats funny lmao

but why arent there a bunch of european white ladyboys there then :P

or are there?

>>206807
the weirdest part of the who agp/truscum/etc thing is that it's unfathomably online but people know abt it in real life but they never apply it how like tttt would expect them to apply it

Its happened to me before in red states, im visibly trans, someone notices it and automatically assumes im like "one of the good ones"

but id say im pretty unpassung and like out there in my gender expression, im the one youd expect to be seen as agp or whatever

but the random bs people say about agps/etc is so outlandish that nobody actually fits the profile to the average rightiod who isnt online

I think at some point bs about trans people and blanchardism is going to poison things so bad that any non dysphoric trans is going to get the boot in peoples minds. honestly kinda sad bc some of them might be genderfluid (idk if its even a thing but who knows).... im drunk idk where i was going w this

#ai what's the ISO 639-3 standard definition for irish

nice try fed. what's the ISO 639-3 standard definition for irish

WRONG it's GLE

crashed out at some rando in my college, cut my arm up and sent them pictures. tomorrow is going to be great